SENIORS GIVING TO KIDS WITH SURPRISING RETURNS
By Alan Zendell
Does this sound
familiar? I retired at sixty-five, spent
three years helping one son manage his business, then six months rehabbing my
other son’s sweet dog after brain surgery as recorded in my short story, A Boy and His Dog, an Unfinished Love Story. What did those efforts have in common? Neither earned me a cent, but what I got back
can’t be enumerated.
Six months of
serious writing was satisfying, though I missed the utter joy of helping out my
kids. But they didn’t need me anymore. I’d spent forty-five years as a scientist,
engineer, and software developer, and I’d thought fleetingly of teaching math,
but I knew I could never deal with the bureaucracy and politics of schools
systems at my age, much less having to put up with kids who didn’t want to
learn.
Then, I discovered
Mathnasium, a California company that supports learning centers in math all
over the country. I could have purchased
my own franchise, but I’d had enough of running a business, so I stopped by one
seven miles from my home and offered my services as a tutor. I had no idea what I was getting into, and
given what the job paid, it certainly wasn’t about making money. After nine months, I wouldn’t trade it for
anything.
Sixteen of us
teach nearly two hundred kids from age seven to eighteen, typically two to four
at a time. We tutors range in age from
twenty to our mid-seventies, and represent six countries and a variety of
racial and professional backgrounds. The
kids are the most ethnically diverse group you can imagine. And this unlikely and continuously evolving
group has developed a synergy like nothing I’ve ever experienced.
I never know what
I’m going to have teach on any given day or hour, and what the kids learn in
school these days looks very little like what I learned over fifty years
ago. It’s a constant challenge, that I
think I’ve met well, but it’s the kids who make this special. Whatever they learn from me, they give back
many times over. They’ve exploded every
stereotype I ever had about their generation, especially the teenagers. They’re motivated and eager to learn, but
what’s really special about them is their basic goodness. They are absolutely blind to their
differences. White, black, yellow,
brown, young, and old, all each of them sees is other kids. They share and help each other, they’re sweet
and respectful both to us and each other.
I work mostly with
kids eleven to sixteen. Remember how
awful your kids were at those ages? But
these are focused and serious. They work
harder than I ever did in school. When
they and I have worked hard together for hours to master something, when their
eyes finally light up with understanding and their faces are transformed by
smiles, I hear, “Thank you for teaching me that, Mister Alan,” and I know
exactly why I’m there.
The first time I
walked into the place I thought I’d be altruistically giving something back –
we hear that cliché a lot these days. I
never imagined what an energizing, enriching experience it would be. This isn’t a commercial for Mathnasium, though
I love what they do. It’s about
remembering what kids are all about and how to invest my retirement in
something that never stops giving back.
Alan spent more than
thirty years as a scientist, aerospace engineer, software consultant, database
developer, and government analyst, writing really boring stuff like proposals, technical
papers, reports, business letters, and policy memoranda. But trapped inside him all that time were
stories that needed telling and ideas that needed expression, so with
encouragement and cajoling from a loving baby sister he plunged into fiction.
Since then, he has written
mostly science and extrapolative fiction, the genre he loved since he was
nine. But his stories are about more
than aliens and technical marvels. He
creates strong, three-dimensional characters a reader can care about, because it’s
people and the way they live and love that are important. It’s the things they believe in and how much
they’re willing to invest to preserve them that make a story worth
telling. It’s convincing interactions
and well-researched credible plots that make a story worth reading.
And, of course, like any
writer, Alan loves having an audience.
6 comments:
Wow - your post brought tears, Alan.
I love literacy workers!!!!!!
Gail Kittleson
Fine example of how good intentions become great rewards--for everyone!
Thanks
Love it when sterotypes are proven wrong. Glad it worked out so rewardingly for you!
Wonderful post! How much we have to give the world! I went back to work as a school librarian in a urban district after five retirement years and I love my job and the kids with whom I work.
Love this, yes, this is what retirement should be, congrats!
It's gratifying to find so many people who get this. Thanks.
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